{"id":26723,"date":"2013-11-25T16:00:06","date_gmt":"2013-11-25T21:00:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/whisnews21.com\/?p=26723"},"modified":"2013-11-25T16:00:06","modified_gmt":"2013-11-25T21:00:06","slug":"rhon-scheuerman-sends-us-the-huff-with-emma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/whisnews21.com\/index.php\/2013\/11\/25\/rhon-scheuerman-sends-us-the-huff-with-emma\/","title":{"rendered":"Rhonnie Scheuerman Sends Us The Huff With Emma"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"???????????????????????????????\"Huffington Post article by Emma Gray<\/strong><\/span><\/div>\n
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THIS IS AN IMPORTANT \u00a0ARTICLE TO READ .\u00a0 YOU will probably see yourself in many of the “STOP IT” statements below.\u00a0 Start relaxing, and enjoying life..you can’t be everything to everyone.\u00a0\u00a0 Rhon<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nI attended First Baptist Temple Terrace<\/a> recently, and the pastor there, Paul Purvis, was preaching on Nehemiah.\u00a0It was one of the best sermons I\u2019ve heard in a long, long time. Backstory: Nehemiah was calling out some bad behavior among the Jewish people. They were charging each other interest, selling their own people back into slavery etc. Nehemiah called a town meeting and basically said to them: \u201cSTOP IT!\u201d Both Nehemiah (and Pastor Paul) said it emphatically, \u201cJust stop it!\u201d Paul then drew the line from Nehemiah\u2019s story to ours\u2026.what are we doing in our lives that we need to stop? I loved the way he delivered the message: You don\u2019t need counseling, you don\u2019t need to go to therapy. You just need to STOP IT!<\/span>
\nSo, my fellow sisters and\u00a0 brothers, listed below are a few things in which we need to say to ourselves: STOP IT! We chicas are our own worst enemies! We drive ourselves crazy obsessing over these things, and we just need to STOP IT! By the way, I am the chief of sinners.
\n1. Stop saying \u201cyes\u201d to everyone<\/span><\/strong>. There\u2019s no need to say \u201cyes\u201d to everything! Take Billy Graham\u2019s advice. Ask yourself: Is this event\/endeavor\/engagement really necessary? Is it taking me away from my family? Is it really the best use of my time? Or do I just feel guilty and obligated?
\n2. Stop saying \u201cno\u201d to yourself.<\/strong> \u00a0Repeat after me: Rested wives and moms are better wives and moms! Take some time for yourself. Carve out a few minutes a day for a quiet time. Think about it this way: If you had the opportunity to sit for 10 minutes with \u201cfill-in-the-blank person you respect the most\u201d (for me, it\u2019d be Beth Moore or Billy Graham) would you cancel on that person? Would you walk away, and say \u201csorry, can\u2019t.\u201d No!! You\u2019d make time! Then make time for Jesus! The one who loves you! Your Redeemer! Your Savior! The one who knows you better than you know yourself. Last thing: an occasional girlfriend date for pedis is nice too! And yes, stop by Starbucks on the way!
\n3. Stop apologizing all the time!<\/strong> I am a Southerner. It\u2019s in my DNA to apologize and then give an explanation. For stinkin\u2019 everything! STOP IT! Actually say it back to me\u2026I need to hear it! \u201cCarmen, STOP!\u201d Of course, we need to be gracious. But it\u2019s ok to be ok with our decisions and preferences. (I\u2019m sorry, does this sound harsh?) Haha!
\n4. Stop comparing your life to what your friends post on Facebook.<\/strong> Definitely stop this one! With the exception of those friends who are chronic complainers on Facebook (very unattractive, btw), let\u2019s all admit that we post \u201cthe best of the best\u201d on Facebook. \u00a0We\u2019re not gonna post, \u201cJust got in a fight with Pete, and we went to bed not speaking.\u201d NONE of us have perfect lives. We all have deep hurts and very personal stuff happening in our lives. I could write on and on about this. I could tell you about my insecurities, my fears, the times I feel very lonely\u2026I could tell you about all of that \u2026. but the reality is I don\u2019t post that stuff. And neither does \u201cshe.\u201d So stop looking at all the perfect pictures, with perfect status updates, describing the perfect vacation, with the perfect husband, holding hands with the perfect kids, having a perfect meal. These are only a glimpse of a small fraction of our lives! \u00a0Praise the Lord for families and vacation, etc etc. I love family, vacations, good meals, and fun status updates\u2026.But know this for sure: virtual does NOT equal reality. What we choose to post is not the whole picture. If browsing your newsfeed makes your feel badly, STOP browsing the newsfeed. \u00a0And just fyi, Pete and I did get in a fight on Sunday night (over a game, no less!) and went to bed without speaking. We didn\u2019t talk all day Monday, and finally went for a long walk last night and resolved it. There were lots of tears (me) and \u201cI\u2019m sorrys\u201d (both). So, there\u2026..that\u2019s REAL life.
\n5. Stop viewing food as the enemy.<\/strong> Read this book: Intuitive Eating<\/a><\/em>. It changed my life. It\u2019s about making peace with food. We girls tend to label foods as good or bad. We look down at our plate and here\u2019s the internal conversation we\u2019ll have, \u201cGrilled chicken \u2013 good! Mac & cheese \u2013 bad. Broccoli \u2013 good! Warm roll with butter \u2013 bad!\u201d \u00a0Here\u2019s the bottom line: Of course, we can\u2019t live on bad carbs. But good gravy, (pun intended) ENJOY a meal every now and then! Give yourself permission to eat a cookie. I truly feel that if we\u2019d give ourselves permission to have forbidden fruit occasionally, then we wouldn\u2019t be so obsessed with not having it. \u00a0I truly do try and eat healthy. But it\u2019s my mental, negative self talk that is the enemy. Not the mashed potatoes.
\n6. Stop body snarking \u2013 out loud AND in your head.<\/strong> Again. Chief of sinners! How many times have you heard me talk about my muffin top or bra fat on the air? I do it ALL. THE. TIME! \u00a0And it\u2019s wrong. I need to STOP IT! As women, we are socialized to believe the lie that our worth lies in our looks. This is a lie from the pit, my sisters! We need to stop putting ourselves down. It\u2019s not good.
\n7. Stop obsessively untagging yourself in every \u201cunflattering\u201d photo.<\/strong> This one has been the biggest struggle for me the last several years. When I started in radio years ago, FB wasn\u2019t even a twinkle in cyberspaces\u2019s eye. It\u2019s a new world, and we have little control over it. Camera phones are here to stay, and aren\u2019t going away. People aren\u2019t gonna stop taking pictures, and they\u2019re gonna post what they\u2019re gonna post. Obsessing over the pic that doesn\u2019t capture your best side (for me, it\u2019s my right side) is only gonna make you crazy. Remember this: your real friends will get approval first. And your very best friends will crop!
\n8. Stop trying to make your life or house look like Pinterest.<\/strong> Granted, I\u2019ve never been on Pinterest (as most of you have heard. Bill\u2019s our Pinterest guy). \u00a0But I\u2019m assuming it\u2019s very Martha Stewart-esque. I think \u201cdo it yourself\u201d things are great. But ease up on yourself. Most of us do not have catalogue homes, with Food Network kitchens.
\n9. Stop being plugged in 24\/7.<\/strong> Stop it! Take some downtime. Stop scrolling through your phone incessantly. Stop being available to your employer at all times. Stop checking and returning email at all hours of the night. Take a vacation. Turn off your phone. #1) You need the decompression and away time, and #2) You\u2019re not that important. The business isn\u2019t gonna cave without you.
\n10. Stop wearing heels everyday.<\/strong> Give your feet a vacation too!
\n11. Stop fearing being alone.<\/strong> I don\u2019t know why some of us are married, and some of us aren\u2019t. Embrace your singleness. You are perfect just the way you are! You don\u2019t need a man to complete you! God knows the desires of your heart. Trust Him, that He has good plans for YOU!
\n12: Stop holding onto toxic relationships.<\/strong> Whether it be a girlfriend or a boyfriend. It\u2019s true\u2026.Relationships either \u201clife\u201d you, or \u201cdeath\u201d you. If you\u2019re not being lifed by a person, it\u2019s time to prune; lose the frenemies. And there is a Christ-like way to do it.
\nA few more thoughts\u2026.in the same sermon, Paul, using Nehemiah as the example, finished the list of things we could learn from him (Nehemiah) this way:
\n1. STOP IT!
\n2. Start it!
\n3. State it!
\n4. Stick with it!<\/span>
\nI think we can all apply this to our lives. Hold me accountable. I\u2019m praying for you today, my sweet sisters. And I hope you\u2019ll do the same for me. I love you!
\nNote: This list was inspired by a Huffington Post article I read by Emma Gray. She wrote an amazing list, and I certainly want to give her credit. I adapted to put my own spin on it \u2013\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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